Lies, Lies and More Lies

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Last year was definitely a year of major growth for me.  I learned so many things about myself and life in general.  But, one of the most interesting things I discovered was that I HAD BECOME A LIAR.  Let me explain….

I set a lot of goals for myself in 2016.  As the year started to come towards an end, it was time to review and analyze exactly where I stood with achieving my goals.  Unfortunately, I found myself on the ’struggle bus’! I was 8 months in and had not achieved one goal.  Yikes!  What in the world had I been doing all that time?

I prayed and asked God to show me what I was doing wrong. I needed to know what was keeping me from being successful.  I had plans in place for each of my goals, but as I looked back, I seemed to just be going in circles. (Side note:  Be very sure you want to know the answer when you ask God things like that because he will definitely tell you, but you won’t always like it)I heard a small voice say, “You’re not successful because you constantly lie to yourself”.  Can you imagine my face after I heard that?

If there’s one thing I can’t stand, it’s a LlAR.  So you can imagine how hard it was for me to come to terms with the fact that I had become one. I always do my best to keep my word. But as I thought back, the one person I didn’t do that with was myself.

For example, If one of my friends asked me to work out with them, I’d agree to meet them at the specific time and place and it was done.  Even if I didn’t want to, I would push myself to go because I like to keep my word.  But on the other hand, if I said TO MYSELF that I would work out at the gym the next day, I would most likely push it off or find something else to do that I had deemed “more important”.  THAT WAS THE PROBLEM!

Now some may say, “Hey, you were just changing your mind”  Sure, that’s true and everyone is free to change their mind whenever they like. Right?

Well answer this question for me.  Do you know someone who is a KNOWN ‘FLAKER’?  They say they are going to do this or that, go here or there, but always ‘CHANGE THEIR MIND’ in the end? After a while, you just stop asking them to do anything, don’t cha?!  EXACTLY!

‘Changing your mind’ is just a cute term for A LIE! (sorry, my feelings were hurt too!)

By allowing myself to constantly “change my mind” AKA LIE, I was keeping MYSELF from reaching MY goals.

Do you realize what happens when you don’t keep your word with yourself?  You stop believing in yourself! Let’s get scientific…

There’s a book I read called “Intentional Thinking” by Dale East that talks about taking control of your mind to get the results you want.  One section of the books explains that our mind has two major parts: the conscious mind and subconscious mind. The conscious mind is our cognitive center. We use it to make decisions in our daily activities, learn and solve problems. The subconscious mind is the storage center.  It records everything you do, think, hear and feel. It’s a powerhouse because it always there to remind us of things from our past when we are making decisions.

When we say we are going to do something, but don’t do it in the end, our subconscious mind records that.  Not keeping your word may bother you at first, but the more you behave like that, the easier it gets to not keep your word.  After a while, you won’t step out and try anything outside of your norm because you are reminded of all the times you didn’t follow through and fear of failing again will set in.

This is exactly what happened to me.  I had become so afraid of not following through that I was subconsciously allowing myself to “change my mind” in order to pacify my fears.  LIES ARE POWERFUL, AREN’T THEY!

It was important that I understood the real issue at hand.  And since making some changes, I’ve accomplished more in 2 months than I have in an entire year.

We all know that achieving a goal is a step by step, day by day, moment by moment thing. Most goals you set won’t happen over night. Therefore, EVERY decision you make on a daily basis counts. So every time you put something off, every time you choose to give up and start over, every time you don’t keep your word with yourself, you are ultimately pushing that goal, change, or success further away.  That’s NO way of living a fulfilled life. 

How many things could you have accomplished if you had ALWAYS kept your word with yourself?  Where would you be right now?

I want to challenge you to take inventory of the number of times you LIE to yourself for the next 24 hours.  The number may shock you! Then, make a vow to make a change.  You are just as important as anyone else.  Treat yourself just like you would treat others.  Don’t be a ‘FLAKER’! Let the lies go and start seeing the success you have been yearning for.

Live Free. Inspire. Be You.

Adrienne Dione


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Adrienne Dione

I am a mentor, speaker, and author in San Diego, California who teaches ambitious individuals all over the world how to evolve into their best selves and create their own lifestyle design.

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